Oo na, sige, aminado na ako, I’ve been a serial-dater.  But most of what I had were just casual dates.  Meet-ups lang.  Friendly getting-to-know convertsation.  It doesn’t always end up in bed, but some serious ones began on it.  Hehehe.

Isang guy dito sa multiply ang nagbansag sa akin na I’m an elimidater.  And for the umpteenth time, sorry uli.  Hindi ko talaga sinasadya na pagsabay-sabayin i-meet ang pang 7:30, ang pang 8:00, ang pang 8:30, etc nang 10:00pm when I visited your city.  Nagkataon lang talaga na naextend ang pinapagawa ng boss ko.  And knowing na I had to flew back by morning, kailangan ko talagang magpokus on who I want to spend that entire night with.  Hahaha.  (ouch, I’m already saying sorry, no need to stomp on my tail everyone).
 
But times do change.  At sa maniwala man kayo o hindi, may mga gabing nagpapapuyat sa akin ang Little Voice, telling me to seek personal growth, and that having a hard-on doesn’t count.

This same pesky voice had been annoying me since time immemorial.  Na kesyo mas maganda daw at normal ang gumising ng 6:00am kesa magsimulang matulog.  At mas productive nga naman na i-spend ang 90% computer use sa work kesa magsurf/chat sa dating sites.  Na mas healthy ang ratio of 4:1 ng food vs beer kesa other way around.

 At dahil kakatapos lang ng 2^nd Longest Dating ko, which frustratingly ended badly, I think its about time I listen.  And so, I come up with this project I will go into details on my following posts.  Antagal ko na rin namang hindi gumagawa ng series.

 I know this project won’t get me a Noble prize, lalo namang hindi ako magkakaron ng ginintuang hoola-hoop sa tuktuk ng ulo ko.  I just think, somehow, that this quote really matters:

 “Plant your own garden,
And decorate your own soul,
Instead of waiting [seeking] someone
To bring you flowers”
-------------Veronica Shoffstall, After A While

Hehehe, kaya for one year, I will do just that.  Mag garden ng self.  Sana after, I can find that guy who I can annoy for the rest of my life with.

Wish me luck!  =)

Pasenxa na mga readers, gripping (nagma-maasim) lang ako.  Today, I ended a one year long dating.  Hindi ko na-describe maiigi un sa last blog ko, but it was a very meaningful and fulfilling experience.  It was indeed a roller coaster ride… with tears, blood and laughter along the way.  I really thought we could make it.

If you search for tenderness
It isn't hard to find
You can have the love you need to live
But if you look for truthfulness
You might just as well be blind
It always seems to be so hard to give

Sabi ng bestfriend ko, masyado daw akong idealistic.  I shouldn’t expect anyone will be honest with you all the time.  Pero alam niyang kaya un.  Dahil he is an honest guy.  And he knows me to be true, with a dozen of our friends who will not resort in lying unless buhay na ang nakataya.  For us, its not an idealism, its normal.  But I’ve seen a lot of liars, I hang out with them, some even became good friends.  It don’t matter to me much that they lie.

But to you, whom I gave a part of my heart, its only the thing that I asked.

Honesty is such a lonely word
Everyone is so untrue
Honesty is hardly ever heard
And mostly what I need from you

My ex-date is a great guy.  Nakasundo nya ang barkada ko, ang family ko.  But most of all, he was patient, he was kind, and caring.  He looks good too.  And funny.  Meron din xang mga flaws like everybody has.  But those I can tolerate.

Some people say terrible things about him.  They claim that they witnessed… experienced… proved that he don’t deserved to be cared for, to be loved.  Hindi ako nakinig.  I gave him absolute trust, something I rarely give to anyone.  I accepted and tolerated all technicalities, all worming around, all borderline-lies.  But when I experienced being lied to, for the second time, a lie without loophole… plain, hard, sharp lie, the part of my heart I gave bleed, numbed, died.

I can always find someone
To say they sympathize
If I wear my heart out on my sleeve
But I don't want some pretty face
To tell me pretty lies
All I want is someone to believe

I considered the year we spent together.  Ang mga moments na tahimik lang kaming magkayakap sa batuhan sa tabi ng dagat ng Manila Bay, ang lamayan sa paglalaro ng DotA, long dinners where we talk endlessly about anything, hawak-kamay at maghalikan kahit saan, ang sandalan sa bus at kahit anong sasakyan.  Those times na panatag ang puso, at nararamdaman mong kontento ka. 

I considered the storms we faced, survived, overcame.  Ang mga petty quarrels, or week long fights.  Ang mga walking out, and those silent cries till dawn.

I considered the what-ifs.  What if I can’t find another one, and can’t start a new beginning?  What if I am really just being too idealistic?  What if he do deserved a third chance?

I can find a lover
I can find a friend
I can have security
Until the bitter end
Anyone can comfort me
With promises again
I know, I know

Kinapa ko ang parte ng puso ko na binigay ko sa kanya, na isinoli nya na ngaun.  And like trust and crystal ball, it was once cracked, now its shattered, irreparably broken.  And when I do fix a broken heart, the broken pieces just wound me even more.

When I'm deep inside of me
Don't be too concerned
I won't ask for nothin' while I'm gone
But when I want sincerity
Tell me where else can I turn
Because you're the one I depend upon

Shaw, I have no regrets.  At kung babalik ako sa past, sa part when I first decided to date you, I still would.  And maniwala ka man o hindi that I care, Shaw, I still do. 

I just couldn’t give my heart to you anymore.

Kagabi, ipinagdiwang namin ng Shawko ang aming First Dating Anniversary! 

 WHAATT!!

Sa panahon ngaun, sa planeta natin, san ka makakarinig(basa) tungkol sa dalawang taong umabot ng isang taon na pagde-date?  Well, if interested ka sa version ng reality ko, read on.

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Ano ba ang Meaning ng Date?
Trivia muna

Ang unang recording ng salitang date ay nung 1330 bilang old French word, na galing sa salitang latin na Datus, meaning “given” na kaparehas ng (1)Old Sanskrit na dadati, Old Church Slavonic dati  “gives”; (2) Old Persian dadatuv “let him give; (3) Old Greek didomi/didonai “to give, offer”; Pinoy dododo/dadada uh-huh-ha ni Willie Revillame ay walang kinalalaman dito, pero seryoso, malamang ang tagalog na salitang dati meaning “noon” ay may kaugnayan.

Nung panahon ng Roman, nakagawiang lagyan ng “Datus” at dugtungan ng araw at buwan ang isang mensahe, nangangahulugang “Binigay sa Araw na Ito:” or “Given on this Day”.  Nang lumaon, ang date ay naging term for “time (and place) stated”.  Ito ay nag-evolve pa bilang “appointment” hanggang unang maitala bilang “romantic liaison” noong 1885.

Karaniwang ginagamit ng mga artistang “couple” sa ‘pinas ang “we’re just dating” status para sabihin sa publiko hindi pa “sila”.  Kahit madalas makitang magkasama, ang dating status na ito ay magpapatuloy hanggang mabuntis ang babae at sila'y magpakasal.

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Miko’s Meaning of Date

For the purpose of this blog, I will define “Dating” as “meeting and observing someone whom you’re figuring out of having a more lasting relationship with."

Ang meeting ay maraming purpose: gain new friends, collaborate on a project, have fun watching movie, etc.  Sometimes, it ends up in bed, pero I never assume na “mahal” na ako ng other party, or mahal ko sya. 

You learn
That kisses aren’t contracts,
And gifts aren’t promises
-------------Veronica Shawl, After A While 

Pero pag date, I’m meeting the person hoping that we would end up as partners.

D#9 Shaw: February 3, 2007 dated shaw, March 15, 2007 stopped dating due to breach of a promise, resumed dating until today…

 
Who knows when or how it will end.  But right now with our current set-up, we’re both happy… and content.

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written Feb.3.8 / posted Mar.3.8